3 arms and a tail ...

I get that back in the good ole days it was harder to get around from one community to another, and the population wasn't as dense as it is now, people tended to marry their neighbors and, as it turns out, often their cousins.  As I've mentioned before I'm finding as I move through Capt Jesse's children, grandchildren, and further down the line that a few surnames tend to repeat themselves along the way.  Some are quite prevalent, like Hemeon, Hamilton, and Hurlburt.  Oh. My. God.  The Hurlburts alone are mind boggling.  There are so bloody MANY of them, and so many of them married other Hurlburts, plus they share many of the same names.  In one case I'm sorting through some lists showing an Isaac and Catherine Hurlburt and all of their kids, then there's a David and Caroline Hurlburt and their bazillion kids.  Then the names Catherine and Caroline are swapped, like maybe they were used as nicknames for each other, causing me to wonder if these couples weren't maybe actually the same people??  Maybe he was David Isaac or Isaac David?  I'm thinking now they're not, it seems that they were actually two separate families, though absolutely related.  I haven't gotten around to actually deciphering how they're related, though no doubt they're all first cousins.  

Capt Jesse's daughter Eleanor/Penelope married a Hurlburt.  His other daughters Sarah and Rebecca each had sons who married Hurlburts.  That's just the tippy tip of the iceberg, there are many, many other Hurlburts in the tree.  The Hemeons and Hamiltons are plentiful as well but not quite as confounding as the Hurlburts.  I've been fortunate enough to be able to get in touch with Brian Hurlburt, a distant cousin who has done much research into his family tree and is proving very helpful in sorting them all out.  I don't know where I'd be without him.  

So many cousins marrying cousins, including my own grandparents, I'm just constantly amazed that I don't have 3 arms and a tail.  Thank God for the occasional adventurous soul who, for work or whatever reason, left the village and went out of the family to find a spouse.  The gene pool will be forever grateful for that bit of stirring up the pot. 

Damn Yankees ...

It seems that every time one of my Grays has left Nova Scotia, it was to go to Massachusetts.  So the question arises, Why Massachusetts?  

Obviously just because Capt Jesse was an outlaw in the Carolinas doesn't mean the rest of the family was banned ... and if his origins of having come from there have been passed down as far as me, surely the rest of the family knew it as well along the way.  So why not go down there and reunite with whoever was left behind?  And what happened to Capt Jesse's brother Samuel?  Did he marry?  Where are his kids?  Where did he die?  And what the hell is so damn great about Massachusetts that we keep going back there?

Filling in the names and dates ....

I just realized I haven't posted anything since March!  It's not that I haven't been digging, I just haven't really come across anything new that seemed post-worthy.  Pretty much every evening before I go to bed I get out my laptop and log on to ancestry, go through some censuses or cemetery listings or something and fill in some names and dates in my tree.  I link up whoever I can and fill in spouses' family names, which often leads me way off into the great beyond where I'm filling in the names and dates of people I'm scarcely even related to at all. 

It's interesting, though, that quite often I get off on some random branch of an inlaw's family tree and discover that it links up again with other people in my own tree at other points.  It makes sense that this would be ... in a small community with large families inevitably they're all intermarried with each other at some point over the years.  

I was thinking the other day how when I was a kid and when people heard I was a Gray they'd ask if I was related to this Gray or that Gray and I'd always say no, we were the Grays from Plymouth, not those other Grays.  After all the work I've done in the past few years I know now that more likely than not I was probably related to all of those other Grays.  Not to mention the Goodwins, Hemeons, Eldridges, and numerous other family names that were in the pot.  

This week I've been doing some research into the Moultons.  Capt Jesse's wife Sarah was a Moulton, of Wells Moulton and Kezia Goodwin (there's those Goodwins again!).  They were also called Morton in some parts over the years, which of course doesn't confuse things at all ...

There were a few Moulton families around in the area with Capt Jesse so I'm linking up the names, working on figuring out where they all came from and if they are from separate Moulton clans or if they all come from the same group at some point.  

I'm also still focusing on unusual names, like with Watson.  Though I didn't get very far with that theory ... yet.  Some names were carried down from the spouse's family, which does help to figure out who belonged to whom sometimes.  It's interesting how often a name is repeated in the same family ... like the EXACT same family.  I mean like in a case like Rebecca Elizabeth Moulton and Joseph Nelson Kinney.  They had a son, Charles, born 1862 who died in 1864.  So then they had another son in 1865 and named him Charles, too.  I guess they figured they liked the name and since it didn't "take" the first time, they'd give it another go.  Seems odd now, I can't see people nowadays giving a child the same name of its deceased brother or sister, but I've seen it fairly often in the past.

Anyhow, I'll try not to be so neglectful of my postings like I have been lately.  The search continues ...

Not so elementary, my dear Watson ...

Names.  Over the years, some names have become more and then less popular, depending on things like trends, media, creativity ... and some have maintained a steady level, usually due to simple tradition.  Some names are repeated over the generations to keep them in the family, or to honour or commemorate those who have passed.  Sometimes the maiden name of the mother or grandmother was used as the first name of a child.  I knew a woman who had twins and named one of them after her husband, the other after the man who actually fathered the children ...

Nowadays it seems people are sometimes just making up names off the top of their heads, to invoke some kind of individuality for their child.  Names like Edith, Archibald, Maud, or even my own Deborah aren't used as often now as they once were.  

In the not so distant past though, traditional names handed down from generation to generation were very important.  Often in a line of grandchildren you would see several cousins with the same name, after their grandfather or grandmother.  I'm sure this would have made for a very confusing family reunion with all these cousins called Robert or Sarah.

Which brings me to Henry and Watson.  Capt Jesse's eldest son was James.  Nothing spectacular there, James has always been a very popular and traditional name all the way through history and even today.  Likely he had a brother or uncle or even his father named James ... not much to go on.  James named his first son Henry.  Also a popular name, although less so than James in some parts.  Capt Jesse had no sons named Henry.  James' wife's father and grandfather were not named Henry.  She did have an uncle Henry but he died in infancy.

Capt Jesse's second son, Jesse jr, named one of his sons Watson.  Now that's an unusual name.  One does not just come up with a name like that out of the clear blue sky ... not in the 1800's anyhow.  Watson was not commonly used as a first name, but it was a surname in some parts.  

So, this is where I'm looking now ... Henry and Watson had to have come from somewhere ... either his father, grandfather, uncles, brothers, or his mother .... Yes, that's casting a hugely wide net, but when you factor in the relevant dates and geographical possibilities and likelihoods it narrows up just a little bit.  Hopefully just enough to help me figure out a bit more of the puzzle that is Capt Jesse.

Taking the time to get it RIGHT ...

One of the main stumbling blocks I've come across on my journey to find Capt Jesse is actually, believe it or not, other people trying to do the exact same thing.  When I do a search in Ancestry for information I try to stay away from other people's public trees.  I know they are on their own quest to find out where they came from, and they very well may be on the same route I'm on, but that doesn't necessarily mean we're after the same thing ... if that makes any sense at all.

Yes, it's good to share .... yes, it's good to link up names that go together, and often other people's trees are the only way to do that.  BUT ... and this is a big BUT ... some of them are just WRONG.  There is a guy in particular that I've gradually come to accept that I should never accept his family tree as being valid information.  He tends to find hints, take them as gospel, fill in his tree without further research, then moves on to the next one.  Then all of these newbies come along and think that since he has so much done on his tree, he must be right.  They copy his tree info into theirs, now we've got 2 invalid trees, and from there it grows exponentially.  I've sent him a number of emails asking for sources for some of the things he has posted ... of course I never get a reply.  

I do end up checking his tree every now and then as comparison to mine, take it all with a grain of salt, then go looking for verification sources to back it up.

With all the work I've put into this search: reading wills, obituaries, birth-marriage-death certificates, letters, cemetery inscriptions, anything I can get my hands on, I try my hardest to be able to list sources for my finds.  Not always, but as often as I can.  My ultimate goal, of course, is to figure out Capt Jesse.  Until then I try to keep my records as accurate as possible, in regards to spelling, dates, places, etc, with sources for as much as I can possibly manage.

Backtracking for another look ....

A few times now I have gone back to the family tree of Henry Gray & Sarah Hardin/Harding.  It has been suggested, even recorded as truth by several people also doing genealogy research on this family, that Capt Jesse is their son.  That I do not believe ... mainly because the dates don't match up.  Their son Jesse was born in 1738.  My Capt Jesse was born closer to 1760.  But that doesn't mean he's not in the next generation.  Henry's brother, Richard, was the father of James Samuel Gray, who married Mary Mangum, cousin to Sarah and Mary Mangum that married two of Capt Jesse's sons.  There isn't a lot of information readily available on the rest of Henry Gray's family, the descendants of his brothers.

Looking at Capt Jesse's own family, his first son is James.  James married one of the Mangum girls, and his first two sons are Henry and William.  He has another son named James F Gray ... I don't know what the F was for, but I think I should find out.  

I think for now I'll focus on that ... try to find more information on them all and see where it leads me.......